Hello everybody, welcome to my third mental health Monday blog post! I didn’t upload last Monday, because my site went down completely and I had to become a tech queen to get it back up. Annnd then the Monday before I was spending time with my family and all that jazz- it was Christmas/NY time after all! ANYWAY. Today I’m back and I’m gonna ask you a question. Do you feel guilty?
Struggling with your mental health can cause a whirlwind of emotions. It’s inconvenient, it’s hard to explain to others and it’s definitely very mean to your mind. When your mental health gets in the way of everyday life, you may start to feel that dreaded guilt. I absolutely, 100% do. The thing is- you may not be able to get out and meet that friend when you promised you would, you may have to take a day off work to catch up with yourself…it could even be that you wanted a productive day but it ended up not being. You maybe cannot be there for others as much as you’d like to be some days, which I find the most difficult as I’m such a caring person.
For any of these things and more, guilt is almost always on the cards. And here my lovelies, is why you shouldn’t be feeling guilty for your mental health getting in the way sometimes. Don’t get me wrong, it’s annoying as hell to be restricted over something you simply cannot help, but I believe everybody must give themselves some credit for the things THEY HAVE ACHIEVED and not dwell on what was not.
Mental health days are definitely needed sometimes. You may agree with me here, you may not, but I believe you should always take time to yourself. Without any self care, I’d deffo go into meltdown quite frequently. It’s hard for a lot of people to have this time to rejuvenate and give themselves some loving- that could be their work, children and other commitments. However, even if it’s just half a day, it makes a huge difference to how you feel on the days where you have to be on the ball.
Feeling this way cannot be helped. Everybody who suffers with any sort of mental illness must remember that it cannot be helped. By that I don’t mean you can’t help yourself, I mean that it’s in no way your fault it’s a problem in the first place. Most of the time, it’s down to chemical imbalances, difficult environments and past experiences…scientists have even found it can be hereditary in some cases. You haven’t sat there and chosen to feel the way you do.
What other people think of you is pretty much irrelevant. Ok ok, this is a hard mindset to follow. But what really matters within your own life is how you think and feel, not what others TELL you to think and feel. It’s really difficult for a person without mental health problems to understand what someone else with a MH illness is going through and feeling on a day to day basis. They may think is absolutely absurd you cannot attend that work meeting or feel to anxious to get that train…the truth is that they simply do not get it. In other cases, people are pure ignorant to the world of mental health, but you must look past that sometimes, love yourself and stop thinking about what other people’s judgements may be.
I hope that this has been of use to a few people: a positive reminder to stop feeling at fault for your own mental health. Keep caring and loving yourself. I’ll see you next week!