Hey hey, happy Sunday. I hope you’re all doing well and having a lush day so far. Today I wanted to talk about something that I don’t see spoken about too much – but I think a lot of us can relate to this…
Are you an anxious achiever?
If you’re a high achiever (hello!), you may experience a little more anxiety than the next person. Not always, but sometimes we turn our high achieving mentalities into anxious achieving mentalities. Let’s dive into this a little more and look at the flip side first.
As a high achiever, you want nothing more than to do a good job. To be successful. You’re ambitious, driven and seek biiiig things… which is actually a positive thing really. And that’s all we kinda talk about and hear: being a high achiever = a good thing. Especially during our school days, we were taught that aiming high is the only way and you’re praised.
There’s SO much fabulous stuff to come with being a high achiever, but what about the not so cool side to it? The side that only really goes on in our minds. The ANXIETY that comes with high achieving and being known to be this way.
What’s the negative side to high achieving?
I’m sure if you hold this success mentalitiy yourself, you’ll know all about the pressure that comes with it. The pressure to always show up as your best self, the pressure to strive for perfection 24/7. This doesn’t have to come from other people either… this can come from yourself, maybe influenced by a past event.
The anxiety that comes with high achieving can be a bitch, a real big one too.
Do you ever wish you didn’t want so much? or wish that you settled for average? that you were happy with the ‘norm’? Because if you did, you wouldn’t have the inner struggle of keeping up to your self induced (or not!) high standards. I’ve actually always been grateful for being a high achiever, but there are definitely some days I wish those exact things.
The pressure would be a lot less heavy, right? Well, you were blessed with these traits, so let’s dive into how we can go from being an anxious achiever to finding your calm.
So, what can you do about it?
Okay, so first, adapt to the knowledge that your best is totally okay. And I don’t mean your best plus some (yep, I know how you work hehe)- just you, as you are. We really do not always have to go above and beyond. Sometimes we may feel like going that extra mile will do us good, which it totally can in some cases. But if we strive for perfection in everything we do, which isn’t real by the way, we will BURN. OUT.
You are good enough, what you do is good enough.
Now, are you guilty for always skipping the self-celebration and going onto the next thing? So for example, you hit a goal but you’re completely oblivious to this and shift your focus on the next goal on the list. Well if this is you, TAKE TIME TO CELEBRATE YOURSELF. Pat yourself on the back, have a glass of wine, share your wins, eat a whole cake to yourself if that’s how you want to roll (no judgement here)… just be proud of yourself.
Finally, remove all guilt from taking time to yourself and engaging in that needed self-care. Yep, it’s a necessity. Yep, you NEED it, it’s a non-negotiable. If you need to take yourself away from a situation, do it. You deserve time to just BE, instead of working your mind to the max. Truth is, we don’t always have to be busy, even though we sometimes think we need to be.
Maybe we feel we need to prove ourselves? But… who to? Nobody is the correct answer.
So go on, give yourself divine permission to take that time to connect back with yourself and leave all outside influences behind.
How are you going to make changes within your life going forward?
Ask yourself what you’re going to do now to challenge and leave behind those anxious achieving mentalities – whether that be taking inspiration from this post or tuning into what would truly work out for YOU. alternatively, you can chat to yours truly all about this… I’m here to help. I got you, girl!
All the love,